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Judge Char shares principles of life, love & relationships
Are you a professional woman of faith who is dominating in the workplace but struggling in your marriage? You checked off all the boxes. You went to school. You nailed your dream job. You settled down with your husband. You are attending church and are faithfully serving others.
But the coldness in your marriage is trying your faith. You are questioning everything you were taught. You have been praying and nothing has changed. You are looking for the exception to the “God hates divorce” guidance everyone keeps giving you.
What if I told you that the problem is not that you lack faith? What if the answers you have been hoping, praying and crying for is simply because you do not understand the law of love?
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Do you struggle with embracing your inner child? Is life constantly serving you an overwhelming dose of adulting that you just can’t seem to get a break from? Are you tempted to explode into tantrums or outbursts, but shove it all down deep inside for the sake of appearances?
If you struggle with connecting to your inner child, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with embracing themselves because of societal definitions of adulthood. This often drives internal conflict. And when a person is pressured to constantly repress the childlike aspects of themselves, that child eventually shows up at the worst times.
Our inner child finds a way to show up and show out when we are in conflict with others.
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Are you more preoccupied talking about and complaining about all of the things that your husband does wrong? Have you found it difficult to even imagine anything redeeming about him? Anything that you're grateful for towards him? Do you struggle to recognize anything that he actually does right half the time?
What if I told you the solution to address your misery is rooted in a fruit problem? Today I want to confront you about the fruit that you've been serving. This fruit being the key to the sweetness that you really desire out of life.
Today’s story comes from an episode of my own life. I was dominating at work, and performing quite well. Yet I was struggling in my marriage. I really just felt lonely and frustrated with everything that was wrong with my husband.
I mean, you name it, I had a problem with him.
And so I found a small group Bible study, a women's group that met Friday nights. This was perfect, because I was longing for connection and an opportunity to let my hair down after saving the world all week. I showed up every single Friday. Each week, I was a little more willing to open up about the anger and frustration I had been hiding for so many years. This continued for several months—my complaining and crying about my husband’s wrongness. But then one day, the small group leader hit me with a compassionate confrontation. She directly challenged my own mess. She redirected my focus to consider how I was constantly complaining. For crying out loud, I was so hyper-focused on the misery of my marriage, I didn't even have anything good to say about my own child.
